Did your spouse cheat but admits to being wrong about doing it now? Are you having a hard time moving forward with your spouse? Your spouse cheated yet you are the one still suffering and constantly thinking about it. I hope this post “How To Get Over a Cheating Spouse” can make a positive difference for you and can help diminish most of your pain for good.
Any type of affair whether its a sexual or an emotional affair can be an overbearing pain for you. It’s important to figure out a way you can quickly get past all the pain, get rid of the images you may have in your mind of your spouse having the affair and start feeling good enough about yourself again and understanding what exactly unconditional love is.
When a spouse cheats you tend to experience many different emotions such as embarrassment, shame, guilt, anger, sadness, and depression. Your feelings may go up and down, from loving to hating your spouse. You are probably wondering if the pain will ever go away. The good news is it is possible for the pain to go away but it will take a lot of time, sometimes years. It will take time for you to decide if you want to stay in the relationship. When you reach your decision, you can then move forward to start the process of your healing and growth.
How To Help Yourself Move Through The Pain
When your emotions are constantly going up and down try grounding yourself. Remain calm and take 3 deep breaths, in through your nose and out through your mouth. Be in the moment by checking in on your senses. What do you see? What do you feel and hear? When you can address your senses and catch your breath, this can help you slow down your thoughts and that way you can get a grip on your feelings.
We also have to address our thoughts or we may end up eventually exploding. Write down your feelings and thoughts. It is also good to talk about them to a trusted person or a professional. Address your thoughts openly and honestly to somebody who won’t judge and will listen.
Your physical health is very important. Make sure you eat, sleep and exercise. If you can keep physically healthy it will help your mental state of mind. You have to take care of yourself to ensure you’re getting a good nights sleep plus the exercising will make you feel great! Exercising is a positive way to keep painful thoughts calm. It is important to give yourself time to grieve. You will go through so many emotions at once. Eventually, you will want to get to acceptance of what happened, it’s important to do so in order to move past the agony and misery.
Start making time for yourself by doing things you enjoy. Did you have any hobbies that you used to enjoy doing that you stopped? Pamper yourself, learn something new or take a class. Enjoy your time for yourself. You also want to get an understanding to why and how the affair happened. Sometimes a therapist will be needed to help with counseling of this. You must get your questions answered and then stop asking them so you can move forward.
Healing takes time so you have to have patience with yourself. Forgiving your partner for the affair is crucial to your healing even if you choose not to stay with your partner. You can’t heal without forgiveness.